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About NLP Coaching
The field of psychology has known for a very long time that insight alone is not sufficient for change.
And yet, much of talk therapy, and most coaching approaches as well, are designed to generate yet more insight.
Most of the people I speak with already have a great deal of insight into themselves and their history, but are frustrated when all that intellectual understanding simply allows them to be painfully aware of exactly what’s happening when the old patterns continue to play themselves out anyway.
I have faced this struggle myself of course, and though the process of insight —> change is non-linear and unpredictable at best, the most effective tool I have found (by a very wide margin) is MNLP, Marin-Style Neurolinguistic Programming. (MNLP is quite different from its more mainstream cousins, and you can visit this page to find out more if you’re curious.)
NLP sessions are 90-minutes long, because more time is needed to accomplish significant pieces of both insight and change in a single session. We start by looking at the structure of your experience and the patterns within it from angles you likely have not considered before. The kind of learning and insight that comes from this does change you, especially your brain, but the change happens in the most evolutionarily recent, topmost part of the brain. This is useful, but the patterns themselves exist somewhere else entirely, in the evolutionarily older, deeper, and less conscious parts of the brain. So in the second part of the session, I use the information we gathered in our investigations to design intensive, experiential processes that can speak directly to those older, deeper parts of the brain - accomplishing change in the place where these patterns are actually held.
The between-session time is also longer than traditional coaching/therapy. Each session is like updating the operating system on your computer - it needs time to reboot and propagate the changes out into the rest of the system. In this time, you can also begin observing the way that the outer world will begin to spontaneously shift in a way that mirrors the shifts you are making in your inner world. This will give us valuable information about where to start in our next session.
The frequency of sessions and the length of our time working together depends on your current circumstances and the level of support you’re needing there, as well as the kinds of results you would like to see. More is not always better - there is a sweet spot where we can maximize the time/cost to benefit ratio, and that’s what I shoot for with my clients. It is my belief and my own experience that this kind of work, for many people, is both more effective and more efficient than the forms of weekly therapy/coaching that can span several years.
Most of the people I work with schedule one session every other week for a period of time between three and six months. This initial period of more intensive work accomplishes two things at once: it provides more continuous support in times of more acute challenge and difficulty, and it accomplishes a deep and thorough updating of your inner operating system. At the end of that period, since the bulk of the “updates” have already been done, clients will begin scheduling individual sessions simply as they are needed - and it can be on the order of years before I see them again.
When a course of traditional therapy is “complete,” you stop seeing your therapist altogether. But this can come as a significant loss, because your therapist now knows you (and perhaps you also know him/her) in a deep and intimate way. And when new challenges and new opportunities arise, you naturally want to consult with the person who has seen you through the prior passages of your life. Structuring my practice in the way I have described results in less regularity on my end, but it means more flexibility for my clients, and it means that we can have a relationship that has both efficiency and longevity. You have the option to return at any time without restarting a significant, weekly investment.
Other options for session frequency include once per month, or simply as-needed, right from the very start. You get to decide your own pace in this work, and in our consultation, I can help you discern what that is if it isn’t already clear to you. The cost structure is straightforward and simple: $150/session. If you choose to have an initial period of more regular sessions, we will set up an automatic, recurring payment
Sessions are conducted via phone or Zoom, based on your preference. Zoom is free software that you can download to your computer if you would like, but it is not necessary as it can also be accessed right from your web browser. Zoom also allows you to record your session directly to your computer, if that’s what you would like.