The poles and roles we inhabit within our family systems become embedded into our belief systems and our identity structures. It doesn’t take long before we would be completely unrecognizable without them, and eventually we come to cling to them as the only way we can know who we are, how it feels to be us, and how to navigate the world and relationships with other people. But a funny thing happens in adulthood when we become aware of the niches we first inhabited within our families: it’s really hard to get out of them.