As an anxious attacher, you feel more and bond deeper, and you do it a lot faster than your lover. You can’t tell at first because you’re on drugs - and so are they. It really, really seems like they’re feeling and attaching just like you are, but odds are good that they’re not. And sooner or later, an experience will come along to make that disparity painfully clear. That's going to hurt, it’s probably going to press on your old wounds and kick-start some of your life-long survival strategies, but the truth is that panic just doesn’t look good on anyone.